Not long ago, a netizen complained to me that he was in an unfair marriage. He felt that his wife was simply a modern-day cheat. He didn’t know what was going on but he couldn’t think of throwing himself into her trap. . So what did his wife do to him that made her so intolerable? Let’s take a look at what this netizen said:
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“She can buy herself high-end clothes, cosmetics, and jewelry, but she doesn’t allow me to buy myself a suit that costs more than 1,000 yuan.
I do all the chores at home, mopping the floor and washing dishes. , sometimes I want my wife to share some of the burden, but she says, I gave you a son, you can do it. When netizens complained to their parents, their parents said, they can do much more than you.
So this netizen is very, very painful. He said that I should not get married. Not to mention that my wife is harsh and oppressive to me. Even his parents are obviously helping her. Sometimes he can't help but wonder if it is. My wife is the biological daughter of my parents, and I am the son-in-law. This makes me wonder how long our unequal marriage can last!"
In fact, this netizen has suffered a lot. The reactions of men and women to the current situation after marriage and the various unfair phenomena between husband and wife make them deeply doubt what they are getting married for!
Marriage What is it for?
From a high point of view, it is for love and responsibility. Of course, everyone knows these lofty rhetoric, but they are just human beings trying to beautify themselves. From a more realistic and humanistic perspective, there are only two purposes for marriage.
One is reproduction. Yes, although it is a bit too straightforward to say this, the meaning of marriage from ancient times to the present is to provide a stable environment for the reproduction of the next generation. No one can deny this;
The second is to Pursue a higher quality of life. Whether a woman chooses a man with superior economic conditions or a man chooses a beautiful and charming woman, they are essentially pursuing a higher quality of life.
So for this netizen, marriage did not bring him a better life. Instead, the imbalance of rights between husband and wife brought him an extremely depressing life experience. He could not help but feel sorry for this marriage. Generate doubt and denial.
Then there is indeed no fairness in love, but there is no need to pay attention to fairness between lovers?
< p> We have heard too much about the word fairness since we were young. It can even be said that our growth is a process of striving to win fairness for ourselves.The pursuit of fairness is an eternal theme in human society. In love and marriage,In marriage, fairness is also an issue that has been crying out but has never been resolved.
With the independence and rise of modern women, according to statistics, China’s female labor force participation rate has reached 70%. Women are using real achievements to tell men that I am no more ambiguous than you when it comes to raising a family.
However, it is a pity that...
In the past, society did not give women enough opportunities to earn money to support the family. This responsibility mostly fell on men. Correspondingly, women have taken on the responsibility of taking care of household chores. Even though women today are already trying to shoulder the financial responsibilities of the home, the “traditional” responsibilities still fall on them.
According to a Sina survey, women still dominate the housework in most families.
According to the white paper "Gender Equality and Women's Development in China", women spend an average of 74 minutes longer on housework than men.
They have to earn money to support the family and be a "good wife and mother" at home, so in many families, there is unfairness between husband and wife. There are cases where the wife assumes most of the responsibilities and only enjoys few rights, and there are also cases where the opposite is true like our netizen.
But their unfairness is exactly the fairness we need to pursue.
Fairness in love is not reflected in material contributions, nor is it reflected in the fact that if I do something, you must also do something. Rather, it is reflected in respect, respect for each other's rights and personalities, and willingness to shoulder responsibilities together. This is the foundation for a long-term and stable marriage. It is also the fairness that we can and should pursue.
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