Some girls are not good at expressing themselves, especially emotionally, and often dare not face their inner feelings. Even if they like a boy, they often will not be too proactive and may even avoid him. So what is the reason why they choose to do this?
1. Nervous and shy
Many boys are You can act carefree in front of ordinary friends and talk about everything, but when you are in front of the girl you like, you become nervous and confused? When the girl you like is too good, or you feel that you are not ready to face the relationship with her? When you are in love, you will subconsciously show some unnatural reactions in front of the person you like, and you will not dare to face her. Girls will become nervous and uneasy in front of the person they like. This is the same for girls. As mentioned at the beginning, some girls generally do not dare to face their hearts, so naturally they do not have the courage to face their feelings. So once she likes you, it will be easier for her to fall into a state of confusion and subconsciously want to avoid you.
2. Doubts
Some girls are not good at expressing themselves, so if you take the initiative to let her understand you, she will not take the initiative to understand you, and will treat her as if she does not understand you enough. You, even if I really have a crush on you. That unknown feeling will only make her worry. After seeing you, she will inevitably have various complex emotions. She doesn't know how to face you for a while, and in the end she can only choose to avoid you.
3. Value Maintenance
Most girls have a little tsundere attribute, and many times they don’t want to Admit that you actually like boys on your own initiative. Therefore, even if she hinted that she likes you yesterday, she might regret it the next day and feel that it is in line with her worldview that you should take the initiative to pursue her.
But brothers still need to know that if she really likes you, she will not avoid you all the time, because her sense of need will drive her to get closer to you, and there will still be obvious nervousness and shyness at this time.
But you can’t just sit back and wait for time to pass without doing anything, because you want this girl to expose herself. There is no waiting around in the world of love. If she never feels that the distance between her and you is getting closer, a girl will panic, fearing that you will not be able to like her, and she will be afraid that she will not be able to love you.
This is likely to trigger a defensive posture in girls. If she turns on the defensive posture and avoids you, her behavior will evolve into complete indifference. When both you and her feel bored, the hazy relationship will naturally dissipate and there will be no more words; or she may use a pinch when you try to get close to her. The gun-and-stick attitude deliberately creates distance and alienates relationships.
How to break through the avoidance and indifference caused by girls’ defense mechanism?
The first one: InterestFading: A girl liked you before but never dared to face you. This is because she thinks you are excellent in all aspects and it is your mystery that attracts her. It turns out that you confessed your love immediately as soon as you saw that she liked her too, which shows that you are much shallower than she thought. Without the sense of mystery and the aura of aloof male god, then you are just like this, and she will naturally not like you as much as before.
Second: Girls feel insulted! Why? Because there is not even a process, girls will highly doubt that you think she likes you, so they will not refuse any of your requests, so they treat her as Made a tool to solve loneliness.
The correct approach: see through it without telling her off, and just gradually increase your interest in her. Don't reveal your strong affection for her all at once, and don't keep the original distance all the time. This method is very gentle and allows her to feel that the distance between you is getting closer without suspecting that you are taking advantage of her feelings to deceive. The temperature is rising day by day, and even the shy girl will naturally understand what you mean.
