In fact, girls attach great importance to rituals, but many boys don’t understand it. They think that holidays are just the same. It doesn’t matter whether you prepare gifts for Valentine’s Day or not. It doesn’t matter whether you have a candlelight dinner on your birthday. But girls don’t think so. Girls think special days should have a sense of ritual. What exactly is a sense of ritual? What kind of ritual do girls want?
1. Daily sense of ritual
If you really want to do a good job in the sense of ritual, you must not take the sense of ritual seriously in your heart, or disguise yourself in order to pursue a girl. A reluctant and painstaking business ritual.
Most girls are actually very sensitive. They can quickly catch your intentions. It is not only for you to prepare for her, but also for the two of you. If you can also enjoy it, it will be very beneficial to the relationship. .
Compared with the rituals of certain days that everyone knows, in fact, some casual rituals in daily life will bring more surprises. Because most people have little expectations for daily life.
Some of the daily ‘consciousness’ that you should have and remember some of her preferences. I remember that when she was in school, she liked to drink the hot lemon tea at the school gate. We were still in the ambiguous stage at that time. After a few dates, I started to pay attention silently. I found that she would go to the school gate to buy things when she was unhappy.
So when we communicated on WeChat several times and found out that she was unhappy or uncomfortable during her period, she didn’t say anything, so I bought lemon tea and brought it to her. Later she told me that this was one of the reasons why she decided to be with me at that time.
We also proposed some Marvel anniversaries in meetings, and suddenly mailed each other a large box of snacks on Children’s Day, etc. We also exchanged gifts similar to the raffia incident some time ago, but the main gift was some practical things on the other person’s wish list. I bought her a bunch of cosmetics, and she gave me some figurines and sneakers.
Then there are daily appointments. Dating is not limited to eating, watching movies and shopping. For example, eating has turned into searching for online celebrity stores together and checking in. It is common to take beautiful photos for her. Shopping has become a store visit. Whenever I have time, I will discover many interesting and charming stores to visit. It’s not regular, it depends on the schedule of both parties.
2. A sense of ritual on holidays and special days
These days are often celebrated by everyone by convention. Therefore, you should not let your partner down during these times. If you want to make this part of the ceremony truly enjoyable, you must use snacks.
You can first roughly estimate the budget you have on hand. Generally speaking, if you want to live a special day happily and not be disappointed, it is best to prepare a set of concepts from beginning to end, for example, plan + scene + gift.
For example, on Valentine’s Day and Christmas, you can “give each other gifts + dinner (a high-end restaurant that you don’t normally go to) + hotel (with good night view)”; birthdays can be based on the personality of your partner (there are Some girls like to be lively, and some girls just like to stay at home with their boyfriends.) You can decide.
If you are a girl who likes excitement, you can discuss with a group of friends to hold a home party at home or outsource a venue to celebrate together. Because you are in front of everyone, the gifts and ostentation must be enough to give both sides.
If you are a girl who likes quiet, you can book a movie theater and go out to pick up the flowers you ordered before the movie ends and give her a surprise; two people make an appointment on this day so that they will not be disturbed by other people. We went to the supermarket to buy things together, cooked together, etc. The whole process was about two people interacting and leaving some photos as memories.
If the budget and time are sufficient, two people can save money together to make long-term plans.
For example, if you save enough money, you can travel somewhere, or if you have a car, you can go on a self-driving trip. For example, amusement parks, mountain climbing, going to the sea, diving, skiing, etc.
The sense of ceremony is not limited to gifts, but also the atmosphere, scene and the plan for two people to participate together. It is best to understand each other beforehand, such as preferences, common practical items, what things you like, what you are interested in but reluctant to buy, what colors and flavors you like, etc. These are all important when you prepare surprises and ceremonies. Use it whenever you feel like it.
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